XOXO, H

So a member of the 'family' is leaving us soon.....

But nothing morbid...she's leaving for studies and will actually be back in a year or so.....

I feel for her boyfriend, my friend, tho..... but they're going to LDR it...

I say... Gambatte!!! You guys can do it!!! I know it!! I'm expecting to curtail my kids from spending too much time at you-two's house so they won't become pot heads!!! Hehehehe....

I love them both to death and they are like the second cutest couple I know... Sorrylah... Cutest couple award goes to TW and RR.. Coz I mean, she's cute as a button and he's got such cute big eyes!!! Their babies are going to be so cute!!!!

We had a surprise farewell party for H today... So cool. People were all arriving with food accompanied by Hari Raya tunes... was like a big-family-balik-kampung-raya gathering, best giler. H was like crying when we surprised her.... Even though she kinda saw it coming. Don't cry babe! We were all there for you!!! And we'll miss you!!!

But we wish you all the best in Boston, love!!!

XOXO, H.

Missing

A few days ago... I received an sms saying that my friend had kind of gone missing. No one had heard from her in 9 hours. Her phone was dead. Her husband was very worried. It was akin to sending out a BOLO. Fortunately, she has since been found, safe and sound.

At the time, I was being a bridesmaid and 子妹 for my friend's wedding and running on roughly 2 hours of sleep. I didn't really give it much thought, only moments between driving from locations and between tasks. But my first reaction though, was still :

"No, this can't be happening. Not her. This doesn't happen to me."

That perennial, "This can't be happening."

I really can't imagine bad things happening to my freinds. People that I am close to. Heck, I'm even not that close to her. What would have I gone through if it did happen to my chosen few?

You never really imagine that things like this happen to the people around you. Okay, snatch theft, minor car altercations, robbery, arrested for ISA protests, fine, I can deal with. But the idea of having these people missing entirely from my life, no matter how small their placement is alien. It really is like missing a piece of your world. Even if they've moved away to another country and you don't hear from them for ages, they are still...there. In their place in your little minds' eye. But having them go missing.....

I've always been a strong believer of the saying, Friends are the family you make for yourself. Whether it's because I come from a really small immediate family, I don't know. But yes, my friends are my family. They are really important to me. I can't imagine not having them in any part of my world.

We all read stories about people going missing, getting raped, murdered, killed. But we have never ever imagined that these things will happen to us, to the people around us. A part of me hopes to keep it that way.

I guess, what perhaps I am trying to say in my roundabout way is that.....through this minor brush with loss, I find that I really cannot do without my friends, no matter how rarely I see you.

So please.....

Be safe.

And let me know if you need me, I'm just a phone call away.